Nikkei Chronicles #4—Nikkei Family: Memories, Traditions, and Values

Nikkei family roles and traditions are unique because they have evolved over many generations, based on various social, political, and cultural experiences in the country they migrated to.
Discover Nikkei collected stories from around the world related to the topic of Nikkei Family, including the stories that tell how your family has influenced who you are, and allow us to understand your perspectives on what family is. This series introduces these stories.
For this series, we asked our Nima-kai to vote for their favorite stories and our editorial committee to pick their favorites.
Here are the selected favorite stories.
Editorial Committee’s Selections:
- ENGLISH:
Walk It Off: True Grit & Gaman
By Jeri Okamoto Tanaka
Don’t Worry Be Hapa
By Kimiko Medlock
- JAPANESE:
History of My Grandmother – Things I Learned About Her Life This Summer Just Before I Turned 20 –
By Dan Kawawaki
- SPANISH:
Father’s Adventures
By Marta Marenco
- PORTUGUESE:
My Life, Our Life: The Present, The Past, And The Future
By Kiyomi Nakanishi Yamada
Nima-kai selection:
- 23 stars:
A Letter to My Parents
By Mary Sunada
Stories from this series

My Life, Our Life: The Present, The Past, and The Future
Sept. 22, 2015 • Kiyomi Nakanishi Yamada
In this life we are the protagonists of a number of stories, but in many instances the actors remain unknown because their recollections have not been recorded. My maternal and paternal grandparents were born and lived in Osaka and Tokyo until the 1930s, when they came to Brazil to work in the coffee plantations. Sizuyo, my mother, currently at the age of 89, is the only “living memory” of her family as well as my father’s. When she turned 70, …

From Okinawa to Hawaii and Back Again
Sept. 18, 2015 • Laura Kina
I am a Hapa, Yonsei Uchinanchu (a mixed-race, 4th-generation Okinawan-American) who was born in Riverside, California, in 1973 and raised in the shadow of the Cascade Mountains in Washington state. My mom’s roots stem from Spanish-Basque migrants in California and white southerners in Tennessee. My father is Okinawan from Hawaii. Because I don’t look quite white, people frequently ask, “What are you?” From an early age, even though Hawaii and Japan were enigmas to me, I have had to explain …

Father’s Adventures
Sept. 15, 2015 • Marta Marenco
Every afternoon my father, Tatsuzo Tomihisa, sat on the sidewalk in the doorway of our house. He observed the street in silence, but the kids from the neighborhood came to see him right away, as if they’d been waiting for him. He greeted them with a smile, since he loved children and he patiently shared all his stories with us. Because the land of his birth was so far away, we all wanted to know how he had crossed that …

A Letter to My Parents
Sept. 9, 2015 • Mary Sunada
My Dearest Mom and Dad, I am Mary, your daughter, and you are my parents, Yaeko and Yoneto Nakata. I am very sorry that this letter has taken so long to write. I became very busy with work, marriage, and family. Then I could not find the right words to express my appreciation and gratitude to both of you. I did not realize all the pain that you have suffered after World War II. New Year’s Day of 1948 was …

What Meeting My Long-lost Uncle Taught Me About Family
Aug. 26, 2015 • Mia Nakaji Monnier
Until I went to Japan, I’d talked to my uncle only twice: once when my Japanese grandmother died, and again when my grandfather did. Only two people regularly called the house and spoke in Japanese, and I knew both their voices well: the elderly one was my great-aunt; the younger one with a British accent was Mayumi, an old friend of my mom’s, who Anglicized her name herself, as “Muh-you-me.” So when the “moshi-moshi”—that special phone version of “hello”—came across …

Lighthearted
Aug. 12, 2015 • Barbara Nishimoto
In my family we told stories; we reminisced. During and after meals. Sitting in the living room all together for no particular reason. Because we were all so tightly bound together there was no need for a beginning, middle, and end. One of us would utter a single sentence, a phrase. That was enough. It was a cue. “Oh, I remember.” We would smile and nod, and like a chorus replay together the memory. The stories were always about one …
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Updated April 2015
Sara Kumiko Koike Abiusi grew up in Winter Haven, Florida. She completed her Bachelors of Science in Mechanical Engineering from Johns Hopkins University. She lives in Arlington, Virginia, with her husband and two children. Sara is a Managing Director at Accenture and is an active member of Ascend, the largest Pan-Asian professional development nonprofit organization in the United States.
Updated October 2015
Regina Arakaki, born in Concepción del Uruguay, Entre Ríos, Argentina in 1942. Daughter of immigrants from Okinawa. Graduate in Pharmacy and Biochemistry. Mother of four children. He currently lives in Buenos Aires.
Last updated October 2015
Maia Hito is a high school student who has been in love with Japanese culture since she was young. She is a Japanese Peruvian with European roots. She participated in a contest known as A Letter To My Parents in 2014, winning second place. She believes the contest opened her eyes to who she was and helped her indulge herself in the diversity of culture present in her own home. “I began to appreciate my heritage more and currently I am continuing to learn more about my roots by learning Japanese and expanding on my Spanish as well.”
Updated October 2015
Chanda Ishisaka was born and raised in Monterey Park, California located in Los Angeles County. She is a mixed race Yonsei, fourth generation Japanese and Mexican American. She lived in Seattle, Washington for six years where she happily was involved in the Japanese community and served on the Minidoka Pilgrimage Planning Committee to organize the annual pilgrimage to the former WWII incarceration camp Minidoka in Idaho. She currently resides in Orange County, California.
Updated November 2014
Born in Tochigi Prefecture in November 1995. Lived in Sacramento, California, and attended Matsuyama Elementary School from 2002 to 2003. Currently in his second year at International Christian University.
(Updated September 2015)
Laura Kina is Vincent de Paul Professor of Art, Media, & Design at DePaul University, co-editor of War Baby/Love Child: Mixed Race Asian American Art (University of Washington Press, 2013), co-founder of the biennial Critical Mixed Studies conference, and a reviews editor for the Asian Diasporic Visual Culture in the Americas. Her exhibition Sugar/Islands: Finding Okinawa in Hawaiʻi – the Art of Laura Kina and Emily Hanako Momohara was recently on view at the Japanese American National Museum with an exhibition catalog published by Bear River Press.
Kina has exhibited nationally and internationally in galleries and museums including the Chicago Cultural Center, India Habitat Centre, India International Centre, Nehuru Art Centre, Okinawa Prefectural Art Museum, Rose Art Museum, Spertus Museum, and the Wing Luke Museum of the Asian Pacific American Experience. She is currently editing an anthology, Queering Contemporary Asian American Art, and illustrating a children’s book, Okinawan Princess: Da Legend of Hajichi Tattoos, written by Lee A. Tonouchi.
Updated September 2015
Retired LAUSD educator. Community volunteer. Iku does various presentations and programs. (Photo courtesy of Densho)
Updated January 2015
Michael Takeo Koike grew up in Winter Haven, Florida. He completed his Bachelors of Arts in Economics from Princeton University. He lives in Scarsdale, New York, with his wife and two children. Michael is a private equity investor. He is also a founder and director of the Princeton Summer Journalism Program, an all-expense-paid seminar that brings low-income high school students to Princeton for a 10-day course on journalism and college admissions.
Updated October 2015
He was born in Jauja - Peru, fourth generation Nikkei. From the age of 9, he grew up in Japan, attending Japanese school, finishing his Peruvian studies by correspondence. She received a Bachelor's degree in International Relations from the International University of the Pacific in New Zealand and currently works in Mexico for a Japanese company, growing and adapting new fusions of cultures.
Last updated August 2015
Marta Marenco was born the youngest of eight children in 1945 to Tatsuzo and Esther Tomihisa. Her father died when she was about to turn nine years old. Her mother was a descendant of the Genoese. They lived in northern Argentina, eventually emigrating to Buenos Aires with her brothers and sisters to find jobs and raise families. Her husband is Argentine, a veterinarian. They have two children living in Mexico and are now enjoying retirement.
Updated September 2015
Matayoshi Maximiliano, born in Buenos Aires, Argentina in 1979, into a Nikkei family. Writer and photographer. Author of the novel Gaijin (Alfaguara 2003). He currently lives in Buenos Aires.
Last updated October 2015
Kimiko Medlock is an occasional freelance writer currently living in the Bay area. She holds an MA in modern Japanese history.
Updated January 2022
Mia Nakaji Monnier is a writer in Los Angeles. Her journalism and essays have appeared in BuzzFeed News, Shondaland, The Washington Post, and more. She started her career in Little Tokyo at Discover Nikkei and The Rafu Shimpo. You can find her on Twitter @miagabb and read more of her work at mianakajimonnier.com.
Updated May 2021
Raymond Nakamura lives in Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada. When he is not personal assistant to his daughter, he writes Vogon poetry, draws cartoons rejected by the New Yorker and gives tours of Powell Street, the Japanese community where his mother grew up before World War II. He has a poem about being an ice hockey goalie in a children’s sport poetry anthology called And the Crowd Goes Wild. www.raymondsbrain.com.
Updated October 2012
Barbara Nishimoto was born in Chicago. She is a Sansei who now lives in Nashville, TN.
Updated July 2015
Born in Mexico, he is a second-generation Japanese-Mexican. After graduating from the University of Tsukuba, he went on to graduate school at Boston University, where he received a master's degree in international relations. He currently works as the Executive Director of Reiyukai America in Los Angeles.
(Updated October 2015)
Born in São Bernardo do Campo, São Paulo, Claudio Sampei is a Chemical Engineer specializing in Business Administration, Business Management, and Environmental Education. In 1994, he held a scholarship from the Chiba Prefecture —in the water treatment field—but currently works as an executive in the travel industry. He holds posts in various community-oriented organizations, such as the JCI (Junior Chamber International), where he was President of the São Paulo Chapter and National Executive Vice President; he is Chairman of the Board of the ASEBEX (the Brazilian Association of Former Scholarship Holders in Japan), Vice President of the IPK (the Paulo Kobayashi Institute), Financial Advisor of the Pan-American Nikkei Association of Brazil (APNB), Second Secretary of the Chiba Kenjin Association of Brazil, and member of the Communications and Marketing Commission of Bunkyo (the Brazilian Society of Japanese Culture and Social Assistance).
Updated November 2014
Brandon Shindo is an undergraduate student at the University of California, Los Angeles. He is a Psychology major and Asian American Studies minor.
Updated December 2007
Mary has been married to John Sunada for 44 years. They have two sons, James and David. Mary retired from the Los Angeles United School District after 36 years of teaching. She is a member of the Orange County Buddhist Church, Japanese American National Museum and the “Go for Broke” National Education Cent1er. Her interests are getting together with family and friends to fish, to dance, to travel and to dine. She has written many stories at DiscoverNikkei.org
Updated October 2024
Marsha Takeda-Morrison is a writer and art director living in Los Angeles who drinks way too much coffee. Her writing has been published in the Los Angeles Times, Parents, Genlux, Niche, Mom.com, and other lifestyle, education, and parenting publications. She also covers pop culture and has interviewed the likes of Paris Hilton, Jessica Alba, and Kim Kardashian. While she spends a lot of time in Hollywood she has never had plastic surgery, given birth to an actor’s child, or been on a reality show. Yet.
Updated May 2023
Jeri Okamoto Tanaka is a third-generation Japanese American whose parents were born and raised in rural Wyoming. Her writing is inspired by family history, her childhood in Colorado, Nevada, Montana, Oregon, and California, and her experiences as an adoptive mother and community volunteer. She serves on the Little Tokyo Service Center board and is the Advisor & Parent Coordinator for the China Care Bruins Youth Mentorship Program at UCLA. She resides in Los Angeles. Her writing has appeared in Adoptive Families magazine, Guidepost's Joys of Christmas, The Sun, Loyola of Los Angeles Law Review, Journal of Families with Children from China, OCA Image, UCLA Chinese Cultural Dance Dragonfly Quarterly, China Care Foundation's Care Package, and the book Kicking in the Wall: A Year of Writing Exercises, Prompts & Quotes to Help You Break Through Your Blocks and Reach Your Writing Goals.
Updated September 2015
Chuck Tasaka was born in Midway, B.C., but he spent most of his life growing up in Greenwood, B.C., the first Japanese Canadian Internment site. Grandfather Isaburo lived in Sashima, Ehime-ken, immigrated to Portland, Oregon in 1893, then to Steveston and came with his wife Yorie to settle on Salt Spring Island in 1905. They decided to return to Sashima permanently in 1935. Chuck’s father Arizo was born on Salt Spring Island but lived in Sashima during his youth. His mother was born in Nanaimo, B.C., but was raised in Mio-mura, Wakayama-ken. Chuck attended University of B.C. and became an elementary teacher on Vancouver Island. After retiring in 2002, Chuck has spent most of his time researching Japanese Canadian history and he is presently working on the Nikkei Legacy Park project in Greenwood.
Updated September 2024
Cathy Uechi is a volunteer at the Japanese American National Museum and a contributing writer for Discover Nikkei. She is a Nisei, born in Boyle Heights and raised in the Valley, to parents who hailed from Okinawa. She enjoys exploring LA’s food scene whether it be the latest hotspot or a “mom and pop” establishment off the beaten path. Cathy is a graduate of the University of California, Irvine.
Updated September 2014
Born in Bebedouro, in São Paulo, Brazil, she has a Nursing degree from the University of São Paulo (USP). She worked as a professor at the State University of Londrina (UEL) until her retirement in 2010. She currently belongs to the staff of UEL’s FM Radio program “Tecer Idades” for this age group. She works as a volunteer in projects related to the field of aging, and she is a member of the board of directors of the "House of Support to the Family of Elderly Bedridden" in Londrina. She is a staff member at the Hikari Group of Londrina, whose aim is to keep Japanese culture alive. She is responsible for both the production and the written content of their site.
Updated June 2018
Lynn Yamasaki works as a School Programs Developer in the Education unit at the Japanese American National Museum, where she is responsible for developing and implementing school visits to the Museum and is involved with one of its core educational programs, the National Center for the Preservation of Democracy. She is also responsible for developing educational activities for special exhibitions and family programming. She received her BA from Loyola Marymount University in Los Angeles, majoring in Art History and Studio Art.
Updated July 2015
He was born in Chiclayo, Peru. He is a fourth-generation Nikkei. Graduate in Tourism and Hospitality and advertising design student. He is part of the Magis Volunteers and belongs to the Nikkei youth of Chiclayo. She enjoys writing, loves Japanese food, and loves to read. His dream is to visit Japan.
Last updated October 2015
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